The Truth Of Why It’s Hard Sticking To Healthy Habits!
So you set out with a goal and plan to stick with it adapting to a new behavior but, you find that only one week later you are not doing that plan; sound familiar? Why is it so hard to form good habits? And so difficult to make a consistent change? How can we have the best intentions and yet see such little progress? The question to ask ourselves, more importantly, is there anything we can do about this mindset, what can we do about it?
We all have hopes and dreams, but your life goals are not your habits. Overall this is a good thing. It is good to know what you want and having goals gives you a sense of direction and purpose, and that’s great. However, there is one way that your hopes and dreams sabotage you from becoming better because your desires can easily lure you into biting off more than you can handle. Exactly what we mean you know.
Too often, we let out motivations and desires drive us into a frenzy as we try to solve our problems at once instead of starting a small, new routine. OK, we know that it is not nearly as sexy as saying you lost 30 pounds in three months. But, the truth being: The dreams that you have are very different from the actions that will get you there. So how do we balance our desires to make life changing transformational goals? What we have to do is build small, sustainable habits.
You must continue to dream big, but start small and a good example would be the typical habits that lead to good health like brushing your teeth, putting your seat belt on would be excellent examples. These actions are small enough that you don’t even think about them; you simply do them automatically; little effects that become consistent patterns. It makes sense that if you want to form new habits, the best way to start would be to make small changes that your brain can quickly learn and automatically repeat.
What if you started thinking of your life goals, not as big audacious things that you can only achieve when the time is right or when you have better resources or when you finally catch your big break. Think instead of it as tiny, daily behaviors that you are repeating until success becomes inevitable.
Take a good look at this quote it sums it all up and brilliantly and is the best metaphor for creating habits:
“If you plant the right seed in the right spot, it will grow without further coaxing.” The good seed is the tiny behavior that you choose. The right place is the sequencing – what it comes after. The coaxing part is amping up motivation, which has little to do with habit.
Focus on the right tiny but good behavior, and sequence it right and when you do you will not have to motivate yourself to grow. When your behavior, and how you sequence it works you won’t have to drive yourself to have it grow. It will just happen naturally, like a good seed planted in the right spot, how terrific is that? The old approach is to dive into the deep end as soon as you get a dose of motivation, only to fail quickly and wish you had more willpower as your new habit drowns.
The new approach is to wade into the shallow water, slowly going deeper until you reach the point where you can swim whether you’re motivated or not. You see and understand the difference, the latter so much stronger than the first scenario. Life goals are good to have because they provide direction, but they can also trick you into taking on more than you can chew. Daily habits, little routines that are repeatable are what make big dreams a reality.
Until the next time, take good care and be well.
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