You can be an elegant, and classy lady with grace in our times today and a stylish modern woman as well, it is possible. People tend to associate elegance with good dress sense and social status. It is a complete myth because it takes more than looking good and being stylish to be elegant. In fact, it has nothing to do with wealth or status, the core of elegance is in a lady’s behavior and manners, especially how she relates to people around her in public.
Elegance and grace are not something that people are born with, and it only belongs to the elites. Any female can become a lady of style grace and class if she chooses to learn the techniques and apply it to everyday life. The keys are essential, and anyone that wishes to raise her level of femininity to its heights of sophistication and elegance can achieve it by applying these fundamental techniques.
THE ABILITY TO EMPATHIZE
Elegance is not derived from superiority or being important. Rather, it’s about making others feel important and showing empathy. Think of some of the women of elegance and maybe some icons like Michelle Obama and Kate Middleton. These two examples are not only uber stylish, but they also have this one thing in common, and that is they are relatable.
You remember “Princess Diana”? She is now known as and coined the ‘People’s Princess,’ Michelle Obama and Kate Middleton are women who aren’t afraid to break status quo and have no qualms buying inexpensive high street wear or wearing something from unknown brands. Grace Kelly and Audrey Hepburn were both active advocates for social causes that they were passionate about and did something about it. Both of these women established foundations to support local artisans. Audrey Hepburn was an ambassador for UNICEF, remember?
These women did not see themselves as high and mighty divas who deserve the finest things and treatment in life, although they were very well qualified. That is why people love them so much, and for some, their legacy lives on even after their deaths. The ability to empathize is a subset of humility. Learn to be humble, and work to maintain it, especially so when your net worth increases.
STAY HAPPY AND BE CONFIDENT
It is all about your expectations on what happiness means to you if you think you need to be rich to be happy; then you are likely to overlook the simple and non-tangible pleasures of life. The truth is you can define your happiness and success because it all comes from within. Life is all about learning to be happy in the midst of imperfections.
Self-confidence is a wonderful thing that every beautiful aspiring lady should have. It is not about over-estimating our abilities to the extent that we become boastful, or being so assured of our capabilities and talents that we become proud. It’s about loving ourselves and knowing our worth, despite our short-comings and imperfections. No one is perfect in this world, every confident person that you come across have areas in their lives that they are far from excellence.
A lady who has great fashion sense might be terrible in many other ways. A shy girl who isn’t into socializing might be talented in making beautiful jewelry and so on. Set yourself on a self-discovery journey, take up classes to learn the things you are interested in, pursue your dreams and hobbies. When you discover your strengths and talents and are aware of the value you have (or even bringing it to the world by teaching others), you will radiate with confidence inside out.
The real women, ladies of elegance and classiness and grace have high reputations of being humble, happy and confident, not just stylish alone. Strive to be a lady of authentic elegance, grace, and class, not a fake one.
Until the next time my friend, take good care and be well.
Joy Ruffen, AKA The Goddess Of Wealth
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